How to Practice Self Love as You Make Your New Year's Resolutions
Self love isn't just baths and tea (although it is A LOT of that...). Self love is taking care of your needs, not being hard on yourself, and accepting yourself for who you are. It can look like a lot of different things, depending on what you need.
With New Year's just around the corner, I want to talk about resolutions. I think we often put a lot of pressure on ourselves to achieve all these things, and then get down on ourselves when we don't accomplish them. This year I want to encourage you to practice self care when you're making your resolutions - make goals that are based on how you feel, not arbitrary numbers, and keep things simple. You should be overwhelmed with excitement at the upcoming year, not overwhelmed with stress.
Make Goals Based On How You Feel
This sounds SO vague, I know, but I'm not sure how else to articulate what I mean.
I think one of the worst things we can do is set goals based on numbers - like I will lose ten pounds, or start sleeping eight hours per night, or start walking thirty minutes per day. While you may want to lose (or gain) weight, setting a specific number sets you up for disappointment.
What if you feel better only losing five pounds, or eight? Would that be considered a failure, since you didn't lose ten? What if you feel better sleeping seven hours, or ten hours? Or walking fifteen minutes, or forty minutes?
I know you want to create specific, measurable goals, but if your goals are being measured in arbitrary numbers, what's the point. Set more personal goals - like going to bed at a certain time every night, or going for a walk three times a week.
You'll still make the positive changes you crave, but you won't be bogged down in numbers. Instead you can focus on how good you feel now that you've made these changes.
Keep Things Simple
I know we all want to make personal, professional, health, and even relationship goals, but if you've got ten major goals for the year, is that reasonable? Or is it going to create feelings of overwhelm? I'd bet it's the latter.
While I've never been a HUGE fan of resolutions (I prefer making goals in the now, I hate waiting!) I try to have one overarching goal - like in 2016, that was simplifying. And in 2017, I had the same goal because it was still relevant, and I also added the goal of doing more, and taking things into my own hands. I started reaching out to brands, publications, and people to collaborate with, and it's made 2017 one of my favourite years yet. But do you see how those are kinda vague, but they're still actionable? There was no pressure, no deadlines, just a simple goal that I wanted to achieve.
What do you think your 2018 resolutions will be?